What should i do try an get my ex back or leave him behined!!!!?

ok i am 16 and my ex boyfriend is 17!! we are expecting a baby!! i am 14 weeks pregnant and i am due on his birth day. i have decided that i am keeping the baby. i know it is not the right thing to do but my family has the money to take care of that baby and i am staying in school well i am going to take mt gr 12 online..





i know it was a Big mastake and i know i have ruined my life well really i have not i have it all planed i know a baby is a lot of responsibility i have 8 younger siblings!! between the ages of 1week to 4 so i know what i is like i basically raised them well my mother and father were away..





me and my ex were having problems ever since he went back to his fathers house!! and then he said that i started to get annoying i all i was doing what interrupting GAMES!! he is a big time gamer!!





i went to his house last night with 2 of our friends and i cooked dinner and we all sat down and talked!!





then just after they left he asked me how long i was staying and i said not long and he went into a depression like he crawled into a ball on his bed and looked like he was about to cry!! then just as i was leaving i said that i was leaving and he said bye but he had that tone of pleas don't go!! and he made me cry!! but i don't know what this means does he still like me!! and if so should i try and get back with him for the baby!! well it is not only for the baby i do still love him!!





what do i do can anyone out there help me without telling me to not keep the baby!!!!What should i do try an get my ex back or leave him behined!!!!?
Yes mistakes happen but you are taking responsibility for your actions which is more grown up than a lot of ppl I've seen older than you....Now if he does know he is probably scared and pushing you away but he really doesn't want to...It sounds like he still cares about you...if I were you I'd sit %26amp; talk with him about what you both want to do..where you want your relationship to go %26amp; if he wants to be involved in the baby's life...If you guys can communicate with each other openly it will make things a lot less stressful %26amp; you do not need any stress....as for ppl saying ur relationship won't last don't listen to them everyone is different %26amp; it may work out you never knowWhat should i do try an get my ex back or leave him behined!!!!?
Keep the kiddy. Leave that unserious idiot behind. You deserve better, maybe you find someone who wants to keep it with you, even not his :P
keep kid good for u





he still loves u


talk about plan about baby and future withhim stay with him support each other





ps thks for answering question


and i did recently have pregnancy scare :( just got period so ill take ur advice
you're going to have to follow your feelings on this one but i think the best thing to do would be to give it another shot
I think should try to get back together, at least for the baby
sounds like if you stay with him youll be raising two babys
did u bother asking him why? c'mon...you two are supposed to communicate. remember that word: COMMUNICATE. ur child's life depends on it.
sex feels good eh?
You and your ex are both teenagers and neither of you is an adult. You need an adult to set the rules for both of you. I suggest talking with your school counselor and ask if Family Services has anyone who can mediate between you and your baby's father. The two of you have too much history and emotional baggage to be able to decide how each of you will be part of your baby's life. Your ex may never want to play a part in your baby's life, or he may eventually become a pretty good father. Neither of you can predict the future. The best you can do now is to stay away from him and allow a mediator to deal with the legalities of the situation. The baby's father does have obligations and he needs to be informed of them so he can deal with them. You are too emotional to do this now, so find a mediator or counselor and let him/her work out the best course of action for both of you.
Well, first off does he know about the baby? And I think he does still like you, but if you want to get back with him I suggest telling him you still like him and then tell him about the baby, because otherwise he could have mixed feelings about you. Much luck, hun, I hope you and you're baby thrive and are happy.
You are both young, but he is the father of the child. Having to hear you say that you still love him, means that there is hope for the two of you to do what is right. Making the mistake to mess around without protection does have it's cost. If you and him can talk and stay close enough to someday make that commitment, then you have not only stayed together as a family, but found true love. My only issue is what is wrong with him, is he just nervous? If he loves you he will grow out of this fear. He needs to put those games away and start to think about his child and you. Not easy for a boy of only 17 to settle down, make him understand your position of being only 16. Good luck, odds are against you, but it cannot hurt to try. Even if it takes a little time for him to think about it, but not a life time.
Unfortunately, by having a baby at this age, it is my belief that neither of you are ready for a baby and the maturity and responsibility that comes along with it. However, you will find this out later. Without passing judgment on any of this and answer your question directly, you having this baby is going to drastically effect both your life and his. While you are going to be hormonal (if you aren't already) just from the pregnancy, he is probably devastated that he now has this responsibility for the rest of his life. He may still love you and want to be with you, but he is under pressure from his family and society to be mature and responsible for his actions (getting you pregnant) and be prepared to take care of you and the baby. It is a lot of pressure for a 17 year old to deal with, hun. A lot of women forget that while the choice is theirs, their choice on whether to keep a baby or an alternative will undoubtedly effect the man involved in the choice as well. My personal advice would be to have a nice long talk about how he is feeling and what he expects to do from this point forward, given your decision. Be prepared for his wishes not reflecting your own and show some understanding. After that, give him some space to reconcile what he plans to do with his future. Good luck.
Oh you are soo lucky to have your own house. I hope it is in part of the country where the weather is mild, because the heating and cooling bills can be like over $200 a month! Water about $50 minimum. Insurance so if it burns down, or floods, or a tree falls on it...you wouldn't believe how often that happens..that is about $150 a month. Hate to mention this but there is like $150 a month you will need just to pay the property taxes, BUT you still have $450 a month to pay for stuff like groceries, a car payment, gas, car insurance, baby doctor, your doctor,diapers (DID YOU KNOW THEY WERE LIKE $7 DOLLARS A PACK, AND YOU GO THROUGH A PACK IN A FEW DAYS!) vet fees if you want a pet. You will probably get lots of clothes from your family and friends, and even if you don't, you can go to Goodwill and get something pretty good.





I think it is brave of you not to care if you ever meet anyone or get to have any fun. I mean your mom probably will come over after work or something, sometimes to let you get the housework done. Kids take almost 100 percent of the time...as you probably know since your family had 8 kids in less than 4 years!





Geeze how did they do that? Do you have like 2 sets of triplets and a set of twins...or is your family weird like the 1 in 800,000,000 people that have like a triplet...uh no, you would need at least a set of quintuplets. Your mom is not that Octuplet mom? She looks like she is going nuts doesn't she?





You probably have had a pet or something that you were responsible for, it's not as if you wouldn't bath them, feed them, take them to the vet. I think in the beginning it's like every two weeks. Do you have your own car? Be sure to get an almost new one, cause the old ones break down all the time. I think you can get a really basic new car for about $15,000. Maybe your parents will do this for you too, because they will know you won't be able to save up the money...or maybe even pay the 200-600$ a month it would cost just to buy one. Uh, sorry to tell you, but the cheapest I could get insurance for was about $200 a month.





I guess you could get a job. Minimum wage is about $7 now, but I heard it might go up in some of the norther states or California. If you went to school for one year you could be an Licensed Practical Nurse, and earn about $10 an hour. THAT would get you $20,000 a year pay...but taxes would take at least 1/3 so it would only be like $14,000 but that is over twice what you will have now with the $1,000 a month...OH, no I forgot you will have to pay taxes on that $1000 a month...uh that is going to be about $270 taken away from that so you will have $830 a month, not $1000. But still that's pretty good.





It's too bad you ex-boyfriend is such a pouty baby, that he won't be able to give you any money to help. I guess he'll just go off to college, get a good job, marry a NICE wife and have happy kids where both of them take them to soccer, out to dinner, or beach vacations or something. Some people have all the luck.





AND SOME PEOPLE MAKE THEIR OWN....and their kid's luck.





Listen, forget your past mistakes, forget failures, forget everything, except what you are going to do right now and do it. No body can go back and make a new start; but anyone can start from now and make a new ending.





I know you want to keep the baby. I am not sure why. I think I know the baby could make you feel like you had someone...maybe that loved you...if you were able to do a really good job...not ever yell, or hit, or let anyone around them that you might like, but who you did not KNOW would be good and safe to them. Maybe you think your boyfriend would come to his senses and realize how much he loved you and the baby. But all this is about you. What is it that you are going to give your child? A weak, tired, undereducated, stressed mom who doesn't have time, or money, or supports to make it better?





If you want to give the baby life. Do. But please give the baby a GOOD life too. Find the best people and home you can for the baby; then make yourself the best person you can be for your next baby. Because believe me, the most painful thing is not loss, or failure, but regret. And if you mess your child's chance up for a strong healthy life, with a strong healthy family...or you screw them up, or let someone molest them (did you know 1 in 3 females are molested, and 1 in 4 boys are), you will regret it every day until you die. I won't tell you it's easy to give them up to a good family, I'll will tell you it's worth it.
After reading this, I don't know what advice you are seeking. Right about now you are asking if you should get back with him for the baby. Have you ever thought about how he felt about you having this baby? YOU have made this decision for YOUR life without knowing that you have made the decision for HIS life as well. To each it's own. But honey, you have younger siblings. Your parents are taking care of THEIR responsibility, your child is not their responsibility, so you DO NOT have it PLANNED OUT. Sweetheart, I am married, and I have been with my husband every since I was 16, and i'll tell you now, people change, and their needs, and wants do too! You THINK about your situation, because I seriously think that you have not thought enough about your situation. You have one chance at life. And it is not a game. You CAN NOT start over, if you feel that you are not satisfied with the outcome.
You say you love him , and he obviously has feelings for you. When he crawled into the bed in a ball you should have showed him your affection and love ,because he sounds like he is a sensitive guy that's cares for you (which is hard to come by) , plus your having his baby he is scared and confused so give him your affection and tell him you will not burden him with the responsibilities of raising the baby. but once the baby is born he cant help to love the baby and will want to be around the baby ,even if you two separate.
You are not going to like my answer but I speak my truth. You need to take responsibility for your actions here - it is not O.K. to say that your family will raise your child as one of their own. It has nothing to do with them and I am surprised they did not give you ****! Give the baby up for adoption would be my answer - an open one if you like. You are just too immature right now and obviously your boyfriend is just selfish and is also taking no responsibility for this mess and it is a mess!
I applaud you for your decision to keep the baby- it sounds like you have it all planned out. Just remember to plan for the unplanned though and you'll raise an awesome child.





About the boy. It appears as though he still cares about you. I would like to stress that you shouldn't ';get back together'; with someone just because you're expecting with them. I think if you and he have feelings for one another to give it a shot but be caucious and remember to keep it slow paced. You didn't mention why you two didn't make it originally (other than his fathers house-which does not say much) but emotions and hormones run high at 16/17 so remember you're both going to be parents first and it's now time to put the focus in the right place. Also, people need time to themselves sometime- so when you ';interrupted'; his game that may have been his time to himself. I wouldn't take too much offense to it. Remember pace is everything and that you'll both have to see what happens once the little one is born. Keep it slow and just stay patient with one another and it should work out. Good luck and I hope this helps!
You're right 16 is too young to be pregnant and it's also too young to be dating for that matter.


All I heard you talk about is what you're going to do but you didn't say anything about how the father is involved. Which goes back to your question, right? I guess you need to talk to him about it. Does he want to be a part of the baby's life or just send in the child support? I really think that whatever the decision is you should realize that you have a very rough road ahead of you (both of you) and it would surprise me very much if your relationship lasted even if you got back together with your ex.